Entertaining at home can be as easy as pie, if you remember what your mother taught you when crossing the street: Stop. Look. And listen. The same lesson applies to hosting a party.

Stop the madness. The biggest obstacle to easier entertaining is a Pollyanna perception of the perfect party. Everyone remembers stories of days gone by where the hostess would come out of the kitchen looking like a cover girl, bringing out tray after tray of homemade appetisers and desserts that she’s slaved over for weeks.

Thankfully, the reality is the world of entertaining has changed significantly. With a little attitude adjustment combined with some simple planning, every gathering is a great opportunity to connect with those who should be the main focus of the party: your guests. Focus on what they love, and you’ll win every time.

Look for ways to make your guests feel special: We can all agree that it’s nice to be treated special. Your guests are no different. Whether it’s an impromptu gathering at your house after a school concert or a full-blown dinner party, it’s always good to keep a few treats on hand, ready to use at a moment’s notice.

Check your pantry and freezer: Do you have plenty of snacks ready to heat up and serve? How about some special treats like scrumptious cheese and kebab platters and delectable desserts? In addition to the tried and true, try something new. Offer bite-size pieces of many different taste sensations. Rule of thumb: figure 10 appetisers/bite-sized desserts per person. Stock plenty of good coffee, sparkling water and other beverages, and you’ll be in good shape.

And the results: Just take a look at the empty platters at the end of the night and the smiles on everyone’s faces. Now that’s entertaining.

Listen to your guests and your inner voice: Whether you’re trying to entice your guests to try something new, make sure their favourite dish is 0n the menu when they’re visiting, or even listening out for that special tip on what to get them if the next gathering is at their home, it always pays to pay attention.

If your guest raves about a certain treat or flavour, make a note of it and add it to your list of potential host gifts. If the party moves to someone else’s home, and you’re fresh out of treats, a great gift basket with hand-decorated sweets, flavoured cheeses or delicious pastries might be just the ticket. There are lots of ways to simplify entertaining and stay within your budget. A little browsing can do wonders. So, when the thought of entertaining starts to make you nervous, remember that hospitality isn’t about the house, the food or the decorations. It’s about the richness of the moments spent with family and friends. Sit back and enjoy.