As UAE kids prepare to return to the classroom, experts offer tips to tackle the back-to-school journey

Back in the place where I come from, the end of summer is marked by the pitter-patter of rain. Here, in the desert skyscape, it is the Suhail star that signals the tapering of summer rigours. To me, as a child back then, there were only two things that made summers cool — luscious mangoes and a long break from school.

That part of the canvas hasn’t changed with time and place, but what has changed is the way we now perceive the exercise of our children going back to school after summer. It is no longer a quiet closing of doors on a laid-back period and stepping into an academic setting. It has now acquired grander aspects, chiefly fuelled by marketing shindigs and a buying frenzy — uniforms, stationery, books and a host of other paraphernalia that complements school life today.

But beneath the carnival atmosphere that we see in shopping centres in the days leading up to school reopening, there is a vault of emotions that is not frequently opened up for scrutiny. Schools, acutely aware of their students’ apprehensions, gear up for positive instructional mode; parents become battle ready for another year of tests and study tantrums, and children oscillate between enthusiasm and jitters, many unsure of what schooling itself means to them.

Going back to school after a long break, which we have normalised like the change of a calendar sheet, is anything but a regular annual ritual. There is a lot more to it than new stationery, uniforms and an academic upgrade.

Separation, change of routine and academic concerns

As frivolous as it might sound, the biggest challenge that children face during the transition is having to shift from freewheeling during summer to settling into schedules after that. A natural resistance to alter holiday habits, which gave them the freedom to do anything at any time is at the heart of the stress that they seemingly experience as the reopening day gets closer.

“Older children are not anxious per se but they loath to switch to a fixed routine and to have to leave behind their gadgets which they have been addicted to in the holidays. About 65 per cent of students I speak to exhibit desperation for gaming and gadgets. Also, it is not the amount of academic work that overwhelms them in the initial days, but the idea of having to return to a structured way of study,” says Shaista Ansari, school counsellor and designated safeguarding lead, Emirates International School, Jumeirah, Dubai.

“Separation anxiety is more common among younger children than the older ones and the school implements effective reorientation programmes to address their anxiety including a unique ‘Handle with Care’ programme where parents of vulnerable children can request special care and attention,” she adds.

According to Yonatan Gilazgi, school counsellor at Emirates American School, Sharjah, students who have previously experienced aggression by school mates show more reluctance to return to school after the break. “We help them cope with this by giving them counselling sessions, follow up on it and then assign a peer who would support them till they settle.” He adds that for many students who perform below par, it is also the pressure of academic expectations that causes anxiety.

Going from parents to peers

Are parents a part of this stress matrix that the Back-to-School period involves? Not as much as one might think. Interestingly, it is having the children at home with little academic activity and a lot of vacant time that makes many a parent go bonkers, trying to find a useful way to keep them amply occupied. To such parents, the end of summer is a respite from having to find novel methods to keep boredom and gadgets at bay. It is curious that the children’s bane is the parents’ boon, viz. slipping back to routine.

Dr. Nudrat Malik, mother of an 11-year-old, minces no words when she says that it is more a happy time for her as a parent because life will now be settled and systemised. “Especially in summer, when she has no outdoor activities, my daughter spends most of her time at home, and often gets bored with the extra time. Going back to school will put her back into various things.”

Malik’s daughter, Omera Soodhun, however, begs to differ. She is not particularly stoked about returning to school because she has ‘no good friends there’. Her 10-year-old-cousin, Sana Munir, seconds her sentiment by saying she has nothing to look forward to in terms of fun or friends in school. Their seemingly innocuous statements call for an immediate focus on helping children build meaningful social connections in school and creating an environment of trust and belongingness in its premises.

However, to a majority of children, although waking up at the crack of dawn and lugging their bags with droopy eyes is a dampening thought, their spirits perk up when they think of going back to their friends. To them, the drudgery of academics is abundantly compensated for by the presence of their peers and it is the biggest perk of going back to school — a joy they reinvented especially after the pandemic.

That the emotions are mixed, they vary from child to child and the family has an immersive role to play in getting children up to speed before the new term begins is testified by Allan Omondi, father of three boys, ages 15, 12 and 10 years. He lays huge emphasis on the need to keep a tab on the children’s activities and behaviour through the summer break, so they don’t struggle to put the rubrics back in place when the holidays end.

“We make sure that our boys are not completely disengaged from books and don’t vegetate by getting hooked to gadgets. They spend at least 2-3 hours learning every day, after which they pursue their individual interests like music, origami and coding. Now, they are eager to go back to school because after being active for 8-9 months, when they get a long break, it gets boring after some days. They are now looking to get back to their studies and friends.”