'They say I belong in the kitchen': UAE female gamers speak out against gender bias

In recent years, the gaming industry has undergone a massive transformation, evolving from a mere recreational activity into a thriving profession. Once perceived as a male-dominated domain, gaming is now attracting a diverse range of players, including a significant increase in female participation. However, despite all the progress, gender bias and discrimination persist within the industry, hindering the full realisation of women's potential as gamers and professionals.

Shifting demographics: Women in gaming

The global gaming industry has witnessed exponential growth, emerging as a titan in the entertainment and media sector. According to a PwC report, total video game revenue is projected to soar from $262 billion in 2023 to an estimated $312 billion by 2027. This surge in popularity and profitability underscores the significant cultural and economic impact of gaming worldwide.

Traditionally, gaming has been stereotyped as a male-dominated pursuit. However, the demographics are rapidly changing, with women increasingly embracing gaming as a form of entertainment and a career path. In Saudi Arabia, for instance, 39 per cent of gamers are female, surpassing the UAE's 29 per cent and the GCC's average of 30 per cent. Similarly, in the United States, women accounted for nearly 41 per cent of all gamers in 2020. In Asia, where gaming revenue dominates, women constitute 40-45 per cent of the gaming population, highlighting their significant presence in the industry.

Challenges faced by female gamers

Despite the growing number of female gamers, gender bias and discrimination persist as significant challenges within the gaming community. Women encounter derogatory remarks, verbal abuse, and harassment, both online and offline. Dalya Herbawi, also known as Lyapop, a UAE-based Jordanian-Palestinian gamer, recounts her experiences of discrimination, where she faced sexist comments and trivialisation of her gaming abilities.

"Online, I've faced discrimination first-hand. Some people visit my stream just to tell me that the kitchen is where I belong, simply because I made a mistake or had a bad game day. They forget that everyone, men included, messes up in their gameplay sometimes."

Similarly, Zaya Kod, a Russian expat living in Dubai, known as BunnyGirlZenpai in the gaming and cosplay world, has encountered bias from male counterparts. "As a female gamer, I've encountered discrimination and bias in various forms within the gaming community,” she adds.

Due to the bias she has faced, Zaya prefers not to turn on her audio while interacting during games. "I feel nervous about using a microphone during competitive games, especially when I'm not performing well. I worry about being judged or made fun of by other players, particularly men, who might see my performance as a reflection of all female gamers.”

While the Russian gamer prefers concealing her identity, Ayalla El Barawy, also known as KillerBunny, believes that confronting such bias head-on is a better way of dealing with it. The Egyptian expat identifies sexist attitudes within the industry and the lack of representation in game development as the biggest barriers for female gamers to overcome in the industry. She acknowledges that it's "tough to break through these stereotypes" but is actively working towards it.

"I've felt excluded because of my gender. I usually either confront it head-on or find a more inclusive group to game with," Ayalla mentions, adding that she feels unwelcome in certain gaming spaces due to her gender.

Husna Murad, a Pakistani expat who played Call Of Duty multiplayer and Battlefield, on the other hand, stopped going online or playing multiplayer with people she didn’t know. “Mostly they (men) would either just leave the game if they heard a female voice in the group to join another team. Or be like ‘oh man, we have a girl in our team, we’re going to lose’, or just straight up use curse words,” Husna adds, while recounting her tormenting experiences.

But with the changing times and more female gamers holding the reins with those joysticks in their hands, what do men in the gaming industry think about how the industry can be more inclusive for women?

“Currently, we’re seeing more tournaments, events, and mentions for female gamers, and we’re seeing a lot of gaming entities ensuring they are included both online and offline. This has obviously been improving over the years, and hopefully, it will continue to,” says Bibi Zumot, a Jordanian expat who works in the gaming and media field and also happens to be an active gamer and creator.

Bibi is also a “strong advocate of having females in the gaming industry and always willing to support them on their journey,” encouraging many of his female friends to play, stream, and attend gaming events.

Understanding causes of online harassment

One of the root causes of online harassment is often the lack of consequences for poor behaviour. Sometimes, gamers who harass others online can remain anonymous by choosing not to reveal their real identity. In fact, gaming platforms often do little to address complaints or curb offensive behaviour.

In this competitive gaming environment, women who speak up and assert themselves online often face a peculiar type of gender-based hostility. These attacks are not solely rooted in disagreements over opinions or perspectives; they are fuelled by a desire to silence and intimidate women who challenge traditional norms.

However, it is important to note that it is not just men who are guilty of mistreating women; women can also be held accountable. In a Ted Talk from 2017, Lilian Chen, who grew up playing Super Smash Brothers Melee, shared her experience. “As a woman, I was sexist and misogynistic against my own gender,” she mentioned.

“I personally have been toxic towards gamers who have been toxic to me, but I’ve learned there is no point in engaging in the same bad behaviour. I find it better to ignore the nonsense to keep myself at peace.”

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