Quiet quitting or working hard?

We are not our work

“Don’t be a quitter. Ever.” When you are young (and restless), this is unsolicited advice that’s handed out to you by those who believe they have more experience of the world. There might even be considerable truth in that claim; there is a sense of triumph when we surmount a problem at work or in domestic life with our resilience and grit. If only life was about a promising beginning and a happy ending! It’s navigating the curves in between that defines the person or the professional one will eventually become. And when you find yourself constantly faced with one challenge after the other, the nature of which isn’t drastically different because nothing really is changing around you, the sense of triumph takes a backseat. Instead, you end up feeling as though you were Sisyphus, who, in Greek mythology, was cursed with carrying a boulder up the hill only for it to fall down, and the action be repeated again and again.

It’s hard to imagine Sisyphus happy. Injected with copious amounts of idealism, most of us begin our careers thinking that we will either reach the top or will fade into oblivion. No one prepares us for the limbo in between — the knowledge that you may have a lot to offer but are either burnt out wearing too many hats or have realised that the organisation cannot accommodate your robust dreams. This does not mean that the organisation alone is at fault — the real problem is that the idea of working hard, as opposed to working smart, has been needlessly romanticised in our collective imagination.

By no stretch of the imagination is quiet quitting — in other words, mentally checking out of work and getting by doing bare minimum — a term that inspires confidence about the future we think we ought to inherit. But before I dismiss it altogether, I remain curious about why young professionals may have reached this point in the first place. Prior to the pandemic, we viewed workaholism with rose-tinted glasses. I still remember when, in my formative years, a friend advised me, “The only honest relationship you will ever have is with your work.” We believed that going above and beyond the remit will fetch us rewards. What many forgot in the process is how there was a life that was also passing us by — children growing up to find their place in the world, spouses coming to terms with your absence and parents whose health deteriorated enough to be unable to make new memories with you. Ambition-fuelled workaholism cannot account for these losses.

Quiet quitters are not people who have given up on their jobs, they have given up on their dream. They are misfits in a professional milieu that has increasingly begun to fall back on hustling in order to advance one’s career. They are also people who do not feel the need to advertise their talents time and again to seek validation in companies where they have already proved themselves. They may have also realised that if these companies are happy availing only 50 per cent of their talent, they need not really give in a 100. The rest can be judiciously utilised in honing another talent.

We are not our work. And neither are we just parents, daughters, children, husbands or wives. We are a sum total of all our experiences in life, of which work is one aspect. When we subtract everything else, only to keep one engine running, we sell ourselves short. Before dismissing it altogether, just consider this: quiet quitting could be about reorganising life on your own terms, not someone else’s. - anamika@khaleejtimes.com

But I like that quiet quitters are drawing boundaries and having a quiet time away from work but their meddling with careers is unacceptable in a dire economic situation. Work is no place for fence-sitters setting boundaries or crying wolf when it’s a coronavirus that’s shaken our world. And if the pathogen is indeed the reason for this bout of sleep-induced labour that they call burnout, why not host a party and look at the bright side that the worst is over? I am not in favor of slaving at work and would recommend moderation with regular vacations thrown in if one can afford it. Balance in isolation will run its course; it’s about making peace with work, play and pay while spending time with family to avoid so-called monotony. It takes courage to be a silent worker or quiet achiever. So quit if you have options. Don't be a quiet quitter. It’s worse than being a mute spectator at work. - allan@khaleejtimes.com