Beating holiday blues a struggle for some expats in UAE

The festive season is often described as the happiest time of the year, when social diaries are overflowing with engagements, parties and shopping for that perfect present.
But for majority of expatriates, this time can stir up depression as they had to spend the holidays away from their family and friends. Research also suggests that around 50 per cent of people hide their feelings at this time of year in order to keep others happy.
Also, nearly 60 per cent of people with mental health problems are thought to have experienced panic attacks during the festive period.
"While on the surface it may seem like an endless month of fun and frivolity, behind the scenes for some, it can actually be an extremely challenging time of the year, especially for those who are already struggling with mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression," said Tanya Dharamshi, counselling psychologist and clinical director at Priory Wellbeing Centre, Dubai.
"The reality is that this time of the year can be fraught with tension, particularly among family members, and an immense pressure and competitiveness to attend social gatherings and buy extravagant gifts - all of which can evoke feelings of insecurity and be extremely damaging to our mental health."
For expats, who account for more than 80 per cent of the population in the UAE, there is the higher risk of developing mental health issues as a direct result of being away from friends and family. "Feelings of loneliness, distance and sadness are common among expats who spend the festive period here alone and could trigger a depressive episode," said Dharamshi.
Yet, even for those flying home, it's often not all smooth-sailing. "Many place unrealistically high expectations on themselves and loved ones, and often romanticise friendships and situations, only to feel hugely let down when the reality does not live up to their expectations," she said.
Mental health issues are common, and not exclusive to the festive period, but they may be heightened by it. Warning signs to look out for include agitation, irritation, low mood, reduced levels of enjoyment, feelings of despair and guilt, and changes in sleep and eating patterns.
Dr Mohammed Yousaf, specialist psychiatrist at Aster Clinic, Al Muteena, said people who are isolated feel depressed and unloved. Hence, if people have to spend the festive season away from their families, they can try and find a group of friends or colleagues to celebrate with.
"Buying gifts and attending social events with friends can be helpful. It is very important to keep a social circle wherever you are, because having an emotional support system can do wonders to your mental health," he said.
Mental health tips for this time of the year and beyond
>Don't dwell on past regrets: Looking back on what we have and haven't achieved during the last 12 months can often lead to feelings of disappointment and regret, which can only heighten existing low-esteem and depression. Try shifting the focus to the present.
>Everything must be in moderation: Overindulging in food can also negatively affect our mood and cause anxiety. While it can be seen by some as a way of coping with difficult feelings, eating too much - especially unhealthy food - can introduce feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. Try to do some exercise which involves getting outside and enjoying the weather - as this can help improve your overall health and wellbeing.
>Don't be afraid to say 'no': The "party season" can involve more social engagements than usual. The pressure to fit in can become intense and while it is important to get out and about and mingle with other people, don't beat yourself up if you turn down an invite or make an excuse to leave early.
>Share a problem: Talking with a friend or relative about the things that are worrying you can help you to realise that some of them aren't so important after all, and help you find a solution. 
>Get enough sleep: While this is a very social time of the year, aim to get enough restful sleep.
>Listen to music: When it all gets too much, remove yourself from the room or a situation and try listening to a relaxing playlist of, for example, light classical music that induces relaxation. The best suggestion is a 30-minute playlist.
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