Emirati educator shares how she overcame depression to blaze a new academic path

It was a brush with depression that sent Emirati educator Dr Maya Al Hawary to explore more about emotions. Today, she is the first PHD scholar to have researched emotional intelligence and its effect on leadership in the United Arab Emirates.

At a conference organised by Emmy-award nominated journalist Barkha Dutt in collaboration with Khaleej Times, she spoke about the challenges she faced and adversities she had to overcome. “I was breathing but not alive,” she said, speaking at We the Women conference. “I started questioning everything.”

An academically curious person, this led her down a path of self-discovery, awareness and recognition which translated into her understanding of emotional intelligence. “You choose to recover from depression,” she said. “You choose to have peace. You choose to accept your reality but not give up." She explained that was emotional intelligence.”

Dr Maya also shared how after her divorce, while caring for her disabled child, she found herself without any income and took to selling her gold to survive during the Covid pandemic. “After I sold the last bit of gold, I looked at the sky and said ‘God please help me,” she said. “That was in August 2020 and Subhan Allah, soon everything opened up.”

We The Women, a platform founded by Dutt, organised a conference in partnership with Khaleej Times, that discussed topics about inclusivity, overcoming adversities and breaking stereotypes. Dr Maya, who began her speech with a moment of silence for the people of Palestine, also called on women to raise emotionally intelligent children. Chairwoman of the board of governors of Dubai Carmel School, Dr. Maya is also a public speaker and trains people to build leadership skills.

For audiences, it was also an opportunity to share their own stories of resilience and challenges. One member shared how she was on the verge of quitting a job after having a baby but an understanding senior helped her. “I am thankful to the Emirati manager who agreed to change my hours around so that I could balance my work and home together,” she said. “More than 20 years ago, work from home was not an option but a little bit of understand and adjustment helped me continue to work.”