Why women are natural leaders

Women’s Day is around the corner and the invites to events and manicure mornings are pouring in. Yet another March 8 will come and go, and while statistics will be published and graphs will be drawn talking about women at workplace — little actual change will be accomplished.

For the past week, I have been thinking a lot about women — the women in my family, the women at my workplace, the women friends and artists I know and love — and one thing binds nearly all their stories. They are resilient, powerful, passionate humans with strong will and kind hearts, and yet each of them tell me stories of times they didn’t think they could do it, a time when they doubted and felt like impostors.

Maybe it is because the story around leadership has always been told as the story of power and aggression and conquest. But we all know THAT is not what makes a good leader. It is, in fact, quite the opposite. Leadership is about listening, empathy and nurturing.

Think of the stories you have heard about your mothers, your aunts and your grandmothers, and their mothers.

These are all stories of leadership.

Simon Sinek, inspirational speaker and author, wrote a book called Leaders Eat Last. Well, our mothers have been eating last for centuries. No one instructed them to, but they would serve others before they served themselves — and in this daily practice, this ritual of putting others first would inspire a generation to (hopefully) practice the same.

We would joke about my grandmother turning everything in her kitchen into something of use. Onion peels would nourish her rose bush, the discarded plastic milk packets were saved under the kitchen sink to be recycled for discounts. Even the humble milk in our kitchen had a life cycle — milk would become curd, and cream, and butter and cottage cheese — and never was it thrown away.

Today, as the women of my family lead teams and manage budgets and run companies — it is the same frugality, the same zero waste policy, the same conscious spending that keeps their companies in the green.

I remember hearing the story of an Indian millionaire in Dubai. He spoke proudly of the business he had built and the wealth he had now accumulated — and told of a time when he had lost it all. He turned to his wife, who, in turn, sold her gold to be able to fund his comeback. This story is repeated, with names and numbers changed, in nearly every business family I know.